Surviving Anniversaries and Other Hard Days…

Q: “ How do I navigate the overwhelm that I feel as the anniversary of my loved one’s death approaches?” A: When we are deeply connected to another and then they are gone, it can be “I don’t want to get out of bed” devastating. So what do we do on the days when we just wish they were around? ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​I have experienced this time and time again ...

In Response to the Shootings…

I don’t know about you, but after the most recent school shooting, the bombings in Austin, and the hundreds of other profoundly sad acts of violence that are occurring all too regularly, I have felt tremendous sadness and frustration. Here are my feelings and thoughts… My heart feels so heavy…   When is enough, enough?   What I think is that these horrendous acts of murder ...

How Deep Loss Can Bring Us Together

Upon our return from a wonderful summer adventure, we were thrown into the thrusts of a critical family situation, as Aaron’s grandpa Bob was dying. We spent our first two days back in and out of the hospital. While it was really challenging to witness someone you love dying, we felt so fortunate to have the opportunity to support and be supported by Aaron’s amazing ...

Feeling Absence on Valentine’s Day?

Ohhh love… How is it that love is the most beautiful and most painful experience of life? When we have love, feel love, experience love, it is life giving. When we lose love, it is devastating. Today is Valentine’s Day, a day that commercially represents love. ​​​​​​​And as beautiful is that day is for some, it can be incredibly painful for others. Whether you have experienced ...

Don’t Lose Yourself During The Holidays

With holiday parties, decorating, gift shopping, holiday cards, family gatherings, and an abundance of food, the holidays can feel chaotic, exciting, emotional, and draining. So what can you do to enjoy this holiday season more? Let go of the “should” and give yourself permission to say no. I should go to this party. I should get the lights up. I should stand in line to buy ...

5 Tips to Honor a Loved One’s Memory

Yesterday would have been my mom’s 66th birthday. I miss her. I wish I knew what she would look like, act like, and be like now. I wish she were here to know her beautiful granddaughters and see me as a mom. I wish she were here to witness my life and growth and continue being my biggest fan. One thing I have realized, the ...

The Magic of the “Eff-It” Point

This weekend, as I led a 4 Day Grief Recovery Method Certification, I had yet another opportunity to witness people transform their pain into purpose. The people who attend these trainings are coming to learn how to help others with their grief and sometimes they don’t even realize coming in that they too are grievers.   The truth of the matter is we are all ...

The Most Important Thing I Have Learned…

Through out my life I have been the person who could turn any negative into a positive.  If a situation  was challenging or upsetting, you could count on me to find a silver lining.  Many people applauded my ability to find the good in all things. Even when my mom died suddenly in 2008, I was the first person to tell you the top 10 ...

It’s My Birthday… I Can Cry If I Want To!

Yesterday was my birthday, and I found myself resonating with the  old song, “It’s my birthday I can cry if I want to.”   All my life birthdays have been a very special day full of celebration.  In my family we had a whole month to celebrate our birthday. My mom was absolutely magnificent at making your birthday feel like the most special day of the ...

Here’s why time does not heal…

Grief is a normal and natural reaction to significant emotional loss of any kind.  It is also a reflection of a connection that has been lost. Grief can be experienced from any loss including but not limited to death, divorce, breakup, pet loss, loss of health, and empty nest, to name a few. Grief recovery is the healing process that allows people to deal with ...