10 Years After Her Death…

Today is January 5th, 2018. To many it’s just an ordinary day. To me it marks 10 years since the most life changing moment of my life, my mom’s death. It is 10 years of figuring out who I am without my mom. It is 10 anniversaries of her death, 10 birthdays, my wedding, my Dad’s wedding, my brother’s wedding, 1 niece, 2 children of ...

How Deep Loss Can Bring Us Together

Upon our return from a wonderful summer adventure, we were thrown into the thrusts of a critical family situation, as Aaron’s grandpa Bob was dying. We spent our first two days back in and out of the hospital. While it was really challenging to witness someone you love dying, we felt so fortunate to have the opportunity to support and be supported by Aaron’s amazing ...

Grief As The Doorway To The Essential Self

It is hard to find the silver lining to losing someone we love or experiencing loss of any kind.  It usually just sucks and we wish it weren’t so. However, because we can’t go back and change the events of the past, the one thing we do have is our choice.  We get to choose how we react to what happens to us.   Just ...

Feeling Loss During the Holidays

Christmas is all around us.  The lights, the eggnog, the crowded shopping centers, the holiday parties, the decorations; there is really no way to avoid it.  I don’t know about you, but I typically look forward to this time of year: seeing family and friends, watching Christmas movies, exchanging gifts.  So when I am feeling down, anti-social, or just plain sad, I can be really ...

Top 4 Ways to Thrive During The Holidays: Even After Loss

The holiday season can be a really challenging time of year when we have lost someone important to us because a lot of emotions are stirred up.  There’s an unspoken expectation about how the holidays should be…fun, happy, exciting, so when we don’t feel particularly cheerful or even down right terrible, we can fall into the trap of making ourselves wrong for having our emotional ...

Why do we cry when famous people die?

When JFK was assassinated 50 years ago, the nation cried.  While I was not alive yet, I have heard stories, seen videos, and even visited the JFK museum in Dallas.   His memory and the tragedy of his death live on as we commemorated the 50th anniversary of his assassination. Last week, on December 5th, Nelson Mandela, a South African anti-apartheid revolutionary, politician, and philanthropist died ...

5 Tips to Make Thanksgiving Special (Even If You Can’t Be With Your Loved Ones)

“If the only prayer you ever say in your whole life is ‘thank you’, that would suffice.” – Meister Eckhart When I lived in Panama and ran the hostel, we would host a huge Thanksgiving feast for all the backpackers.  Since most of them were not from the United States, we had the privilege of introducing them to the concept of Thanksgiving.  I would share ...

Can We Learn From The Regrets Of The Dying?

“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.  I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. I wish that I had let myself be happier.” Do these sound familiar? These are a few of the top regrets of the dying.  Do you ever wish we could learn from other people’s regrets?  When ...

What Is A Survivor?

When you hear the word survivor what do you think I think of someone who survived an accident, someone who lived on after someone else passes, and someone who is doing just better than “getting by” in their life. To me, survival means that we were close to death, but somehow we managed to escape it this time. So when it comes to life, is surviving enough?  Yes, ...