Surviving Anniversaries and Other Hard Days…

Q: “ How do I navigate the overwhelm that I feel as the anniversary of my loved one’s death approaches?” A: When we are deeply connected to another and then they are gone, it can be “I don’t want to get out of bed” devastating. So what do we do on the days when we just wish they were around? ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​I have experienced this time and time again ...

The 4 P’s of Parenting

Children teach us who we are and who we want to be. In many ways, having a second child has been much easier than having the first. (Even though I am still not sleeping much:) Remember the definition of grief that we use in at the Grief Recovery Institute? “The end of or change in a familiar patter of behavior.” Well the second time around, ...

Feeling Absence on Valentine’s Day?

Ohhh love… How is it that love is the most beautiful and most painful experience of life? When we have love, feel love, experience love, it is life giving. When we lose love, it is devastating. Today is Valentine’s Day, a day that commercially represents love. ​​​​​​​And as beautiful is that day is for some, it can be incredibly painful for others. Whether you have experienced ...

How to Move Through Painful Transitions

The seasons changing. Going through a breakup or divorce. Losing your job or getting a promotion. Moving homes or moving across country. What do all of these have in common? They are all transitions. I am in one right now and it is not easy. For months now I have been struggling with the changes in my life. As of May we decided that we ...

How to Have Compassion for a Killer

Over the last decade in the United States we have seen an increasing number of national tragedies. More mass shootings, more hate crimes, more violence—a world divided. We see it everywhere, and the world is no longer feeling safe. Everyday I avoid watching the news because I know what I will see. I don’t want to see it because it breaks my heart, but just ...

What Does Love Have To Do With Politics?

Why does it seem like we wait for someone to die before we sing their praises? Wouldn’t it be nice for people to know all the lovely things we think and feel about them during life rather than waiting to memorialize them at their grave? Nancy Reagan’s recent death spurred a lot of wonderful commentary about her life, the work she and President Reagan did ...

7 Critical Lessons About Emotions That Make Pixar’s Inside Out a Must See for All Ages

Spoiler Alert: This post contains details about the plot. We walked into the theater for date night, and my husband jokingly said, “We can tell people we are vetting this movie for Ayla.” Ayla (pronounced eye-la) is our 10-month-old daughter who is a ways away from Inside Out, Frozen, Cinderella or any of the other fan favorites. The truth is, Aaron and I have been ...

Today Is All We Have

Who inspires you? Who is someone you would love to meet if you had the chance?  Recently I heard a woman say that she thought all of her problems would disappear when she hit her ideal weight.  However, when she got there, she realized that she was still the same person with a lower number on the scale.  This really struck me because I think ...

Surrender

It is amazing the number of unknowns that come with having a baby.  What will the birth be like?  What will the baby be like? Will they cry a lot or a little? Will they sleep well or not at all?  Will they be healthy? Will I be a good parent? Will I be patient? How will my life change? How will my relationship with ...