Are you the worst you during the holidays?

Are you the same person you were 10 years ago? I doubt it. While we are in our essence the same as we were when we were two years old, we are also constantly evolving. I don’t know about you, but when I am with my family (particularly during the holidays) I tend to revert back to old behaviors and patterns. If you are dreading ...

What not to say during the holidays!

Even with all the holiday cheer, the holidays can be rough. As we approach the end of the year, it is normal to reflect on all that has happened, good and bad. While there is so much to be grateful for, 2017 has been devastating for many. From mass shootings, to fires and floods, to loss of loved ones and divorces, it seems like tragedy is inescapable. Of course ...

Is There an Empty Chair at Your Holiday Table?

While the holidays can be magical for some, they can also be a really challenging time of year when there is an empty seat at your table. Whether you have experienced the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or you just couldn’t get home for the holidays, it is normal to feel triggered this time of year. Part of why we can ...

Don’t Lose Yourself During The Holidays

With holiday parties, decorating, gift shopping, holiday cards, family gatherings, and an abundance of food, the holidays can feel chaotic, exciting, emotional, and draining. So what can you do to enjoy this holiday season more? Let go of the “should” and give yourself permission to say no. I should go to this party. I should get the lights up. I should stand in line to buy ...

Oh Father’s Day!

Father’s Day, like all holidays, can come with some baggage.   Like Christmas, Valentine’s Day, or it’s close relative, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day can bring up unresolved grief.   When I say grief, remember, it doesn’t necessarily mean that your dad has died.  Grief can come in many shapes and sizes.  Perhaps your relationship with your dad is strained, your dad wasn’t around when you were ...

Feeling Loss During the Holidays

Christmas is all around us.  The lights, the eggnog, the crowded shopping centers, the holiday parties, the decorations; there is really no way to avoid it.  I don’t know about you, but I typically look forward to this time of year: seeing family and friends, watching Christmas movies, exchanging gifts.  So when I am feeling down, anti-social, or just plain sad, I can be really ...

Top 4 Ways to Thrive During The Holidays: Even After Loss

The holiday season can be a really challenging time of year when we have lost someone important to us because a lot of emotions are stirred up.  There’s an unspoken expectation about how the holidays should be…fun, happy, exciting, so when we don’t feel particularly cheerful or even down right terrible, we can fall into the trap of making ourselves wrong for having our emotional ...