Surviving Anniversaries and Other Hard Days…

Q: “ How do I navigate the overwhelm that I feel as the anniversary of my loved one’s death approaches?” A: When we are deeply connected to another and then they are gone, it can be “I don’t want to get out of bed” devastating. So what do we do on the days when we just wish they were around? ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​I have experienced this time and time again ...

In Response to the Shootings…

I don’t know about you, but after the most recent school shooting, the bombings in Austin, and the hundreds of other profoundly sad acts of violence that are occurring all too regularly, I have felt tremendous sadness and frustration. Here are my feelings and thoughts… My heart feels so heavy…   When is enough, enough?   What I think is that these horrendous acts of murder ...

10 Years After Her Death…

Today is January 5th, 2018. To many it’s just an ordinary day. To me it marks 10 years since the most life changing moment of my life, my mom’s death. It is 10 years of figuring out who I am without my mom. It is 10 anniversaries of her death, 10 birthdays, my wedding, my Dad’s wedding, my brother’s wedding, 1 niece, 2 children of ...

Feeling Absence on Valentine’s Day?

Ohhh love… How is it that love is the most beautiful and most painful experience of life? When we have love, feel love, experience love, it is life giving. When we lose love, it is devastating. Today is Valentine’s Day, a day that commercially represents love. ​​​​​​​And as beautiful is that day is for some, it can be incredibly painful for others. Whether you have experienced ...

Your Loss is Enough

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.” -Maya Angelou So often I hear people say things like, “I went through a terrible divorce, but hers is worse because her husband died.” Or someone says, “I only lost my job, but I can’t feel bad because there are people out there who are starving.” ​While appreciating someone else’s challenge or grief experience can bring perspective to ...

Is There an Empty Chair at Your Holiday Table?

While the holidays can be magical for some, they can also be a really challenging time of year when there is an empty seat at your table. Whether you have experienced the loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or you just couldn’t get home for the holidays, it is normal to feel triggered this time of year. Part of why we can ...

Would You Like To Clear Your Emotional Cookies

Do you know about clearing the cookies on your computer? Cookies pop up when you type anything into your search engine, and the next word that’s going to come up is something associated with what you’ve searched before. For example, when I type in “grief” – the cookies pop up as griefrecoverymethod.com because of my typical searches. So, how does this relate to emotions? The Grief Recovery Method® ...

Don’t Lose Yourself During The Holidays

With holiday parties, decorating, gift shopping, holiday cards, family gatherings, and an abundance of food, the holidays can feel chaotic, exciting, emotional, and draining. So what can you do to enjoy this holiday season more? Let go of the “should” and give yourself permission to say no. I should go to this party. I should get the lights up. I should stand in line to buy ...

How to Have Compassion for a Killer

Over the last decade in the United States we have seen an increasing number of national tragedies. More mass shootings, more hate crimes, more violence—a world divided. We see it everywhere, and the world is no longer feeling safe. Everyday I avoid watching the news because I know what I will see. I don’t want to see it because it breaks my heart, but just ...

5 Tips to Honor a Loved One’s Memory

Yesterday would have been my mom’s 66th birthday. I miss her. I wish I knew what she would look like, act like, and be like now. I wish she were here to know her beautiful granddaughters and see me as a mom. I wish she were here to witness my life and growth and continue being my biggest fan. One thing I have realized, the ...