The 4 P’s of Parenting

Children teach us who we are and who we want to be. In many ways, having a second child has been much easier than having the first. (Even though I am still not sleeping much:) Remember the definition of grief that we use in at the Grief Recovery Institute? “The end of or change in a familiar patter of behavior.” Well the second time around, ...

10 Years After Her Death…

Today is January 5th, 2018. To many it’s just an ordinary day. To me it marks 10 years since the most life changing moment of my life, my mom’s death. It is 10 years of figuring out who I am without my mom. It is 10 anniversaries of her death, 10 birthdays, my wedding, my Dad’s wedding, my brother’s wedding, 1 niece, 2 children of ...

Can Having a Baby Be a Grieving Experience?

I am 38 weeks pregnant, and while I am excited to welcome a baby boy into our family, I am also scared. Do you remember the definition of grief from The Grief Recovery Institute that I have shared with you time and time again? “The conflicting feelings that come at the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior.” Not the bad, sad, terrible feelings… ...

How Deep Loss Can Bring Us Together

Upon our return from a wonderful summer adventure, we were thrown into the thrusts of a critical family situation, as Aaron’s grandpa Bob was dying. We spent our first two days back in and out of the hospital. While it was really challenging to witness someone you love dying, we felt so fortunate to have the opportunity to support and be supported by Aaron’s amazing ...

Your Loss is Enough

“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.” -Maya Angelou So often I hear people say things like, “I went through a terrible divorce, but hers is worse because her husband died.” Or someone says, “I only lost my job, but I can’t feel bad because there are people out there who are starving.” ​While appreciating someone else’s challenge or grief experience can bring perspective to ...

The Pitfall of Planning and What to Do Instead…

As we approach the New Year there is a tendency toward reflection and planning. Where do you spend most of your time? In the past — in regret or fond memories. In the future — in worry or excited anticipation. As I step back and notice my own thoughts, I realize more and more how much time I spend worrying about a future that may ...

Would You Like To Clear Your Emotional Cookies

Do you know about clearing the cookies on your computer? Cookies pop up when you type anything into your search engine, and the next word that’s going to come up is something associated with what you’ve searched before. For example, when I type in “grief” – the cookies pop up as griefrecoverymethod.com because of my typical searches. So, how does this relate to emotions? The Grief Recovery Method® ...

Don’t Lose Yourself During The Holidays

With holiday parties, decorating, gift shopping, holiday cards, family gatherings, and an abundance of food, the holidays can feel chaotic, exciting, emotional, and draining. So what can you do to enjoy this holiday season more? Let go of the “should” and give yourself permission to say no. I should go to this party. I should get the lights up. I should stand in line to buy ...

The Magic of the “Eff-It” Point

This weekend, as I led a 4 Day Grief Recovery Method Certification, I had yet another opportunity to witness people transform their pain into purpose. The people who attend these trainings are coming to learn how to help others with their grief and sometimes they don’t even realize coming in that they too are grievers.   The truth of the matter is we are all ...