Surviving Anniversaries and Other Hard Days…

Q: “ How do I navigate the overwhelm that I feel as the anniversary of my loved one’s death approaches?” A: When we are deeply connected to another and then they are gone, it can be “I don’t want to get out of bed” devastating. So what do we do on the days when we just wish they were around? ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​I have experienced this time and time again ...

The 4 P’s of Parenting

Children teach us who we are and who we want to be. In many ways, having a second child has been much easier than having the first. (Even though I am still not sleeping much:) Remember the definition of grief that we use in at the Grief Recovery Institute? “The end of or change in a familiar patter of behavior.” Well the second time around, ...

In Response to the Shootings…

I don’t know about you, but after the most recent school shooting, the bombings in Austin, and the hundreds of other profoundly sad acts of violence that are occurring all too regularly, I have felt tremendous sadness and frustration. Here are my feelings and thoughts… My heart feels so heavy…   When is enough, enough?   What I think is that these horrendous acts of murder ...

10 Years After Her Death…

Today is January 5th, 2018. To many it’s just an ordinary day. To me it marks 10 years since the most life changing moment of my life, my mom’s death. It is 10 years of figuring out who I am without my mom. It is 10 anniversaries of her death, 10 birthdays, my wedding, my Dad’s wedding, my brother’s wedding, 1 niece, 2 children of ...

Are you the worst you during the holidays?

Are you the same person you were 10 years ago? I doubt it. While we are in our essence the same as we were when we were two years old, we are also constantly evolving. I don’t know about you, but when I am with my family (particularly during the holidays) I tend to revert back to old behaviors and patterns. If you are dreading ...

What not to say during the holidays!

Even with all the holiday cheer, the holidays can be rough. As we approach the end of the year, it is normal to reflect on all that has happened, good and bad. While there is so much to be grateful for, 2017 has been devastating for many. From mass shootings, to fires and floods, to loss of loved ones and divorces, it seems like tragedy is inescapable. Of course ...

Can Having a Baby Be a Grieving Experience?

I am 38 weeks pregnant, and while I am excited to welcome a baby boy into our family, I am also scared. Do you remember the definition of grief from The Grief Recovery Institute that I have shared with you time and time again? “The conflicting feelings that come at the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior.” Not the bad, sad, terrible feelings… ...

Know Your Audience

One of the foundational principles in Grief Recovery work is that we don’t compare losses because as we say in the coaching world, compare leads to despair.  When comparing losses no one wins. If I say, “mine is worse than yours,” it can diminish what you have shared often leaving you feeling smaller, less than, or unimportant. If I say, “yours is the worst,” I ...