Surviving Anniversaries and Other Hard Days…

Q: “ How do I navigate the overwhelm that I feel as the anniversary of my loved one’s death approaches?” A: When we are deeply connected to another and then they are gone, it can be “I don’t want to get out of bed” devastating. So what do we do on the days when we just wish they were around? ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​I have experienced this time and time again ...

How Deep Loss Can Bring Us Together

Upon our return from a wonderful summer adventure, we were thrown into the thrusts of a critical family situation, as Aaron’s grandpa Bob was dying. We spent our first two days back in and out of the hospital. While it was really challenging to witness someone you love dying, we felt so fortunate to have the opportunity to support and be supported by Aaron’s amazing ...

How to Have Compassion for a Killer

Over the last decade in the United States we have seen an increasing number of national tragedies. More mass shootings, more hate crimes, more violence—a world divided. We see it everywhere, and the world is no longer feeling safe. Everyday I avoid watching the news because I know what I will see. I don’t want to see it because it breaks my heart, but just ...

5 Tips to Honor a Loved One’s Memory

Yesterday would have been my mom’s 66th birthday. I miss her. I wish I knew what she would look like, act like, and be like now. I wish she were here to know her beautiful granddaughters and see me as a mom. I wish she were here to witness my life and growth and continue being my biggest fan. One thing I have realized, the ...

The Silver Linings Of Loss

When loss occurs it is often challenging or even impossible to see the silver lining. However, it is imperative to experience the grief in order to heal. As my clients often hear me say, you have to feel to heal. However, once you have taken action to complete your loss and time has done its work, the silver lining will have an opportunity to present ...

Here I am five years later, facing my past…

We are out at Al Natural Resort on the island where Aaron used to work, where we first fell in love, where we got married, and also where I found out about the tragic death of my dear mother.  I am overcome with emotion as I reflect back upon all that happened on this beach.  There are so many memories here, the highest highs and ...

How To Support Someone Who Has Experienced Loss

Let me tell you, before I lost my Mom, I avoided these situations as much as possible.  I was so afraid to say the wrong thing that I didn’t say anything at all.  After going through my own loss, before I decided to make this my life’s work, I learned quite a bit about how to support others based on my experience. Here are a ...