Are you the worst you during the holidays?

Are you the same person you were 10 years ago? I doubt it. While we are in our essence the same as we were when we were two years old, we are also constantly evolving. I don’t know about you, but when I am with my family (particularly during the holidays) I tend to revert back to old behaviors and patterns. If you are dreading ...

What not to say during the holidays!

Even with all the holiday cheer, the holidays can be rough. As we approach the end of the year, it is normal to reflect on all that has happened, good and bad. While there is so much to be grateful for, 2017 has been devastating for many. From mass shootings, to fires and floods, to loss of loved ones and divorces, it seems like tragedy is inescapable. Of course ...

Know Your Audience

One of the foundational principles in Grief Recovery work is that we don’t compare losses because as we say in the coaching world, compare leads to despair.  When comparing losses no one wins. If I say, “mine is worse than yours,” it can diminish what you have shared often leaving you feeling smaller, less than, or unimportant. If I say, “yours is the worst,” I ...

What to Say When Someone is Sad…

As we chatted with our daughter Ayla on FaceTime, it was clear that her little heart was hurting to be away from her mommy and daddy. For our 10 year anniversary, Aaron and I decided to go on a little trip to celebrate. This is the first time, since our daughter was born almost two and a half years ago, that we have both been ...