Category: Light After Loss

How Can You Help Change The World?

​​I don’t know if you feel this, but sometimes the world can feel like a dark and hopeless place. We are bombarded daily with horrifying headlines about terrorism and violence, refugees who have lost everything, children who are starving, and a deep division in our own country. Sometimes I wonder what role I am here to play. How can I help? What can I do? ...

How Deep Loss Can Bring Us Together

Upon our return from a wonderful summer adventure, we were thrown into the thrusts of a critical family situation, as Aaron’s grandpa Bob was dying. We spent our first two days back in and out of the hospital. While it was really challenging to witness someone you love dying, we felt so fortunate to have the opportunity to support and be supported by Aaron’s amazing ...

Does Vacation Have To Be Stressful?

Do you spend half of your vacation worrying about the work that will be piled up when you get home? Unfortunately, this is a common internal battle. We spend so much of our work time fantasizing about our vacation, and then spend so much of our vacation worrying about work.   Aaron, Ayla and I have spent the last few weeks in France, and while this ...

Why Moving Is A Grieving Experience…

“Where’s my kitchen room?” cried my little girl the other day when she woke up to a house that had been almost completely packed up. “Your kitchen room is safe in ​​​​​​storage, and you will get it back when we move into our new place. I know it is confusing baby, and I am sorry we are moving,” I explained with tears in my eyes. ...

How To Quiet Our Self-Criticism…

Through tears my client says, “I am such a failure. I can’t seem to get a grip on this weight thing.” “Tell me more,” I say.    “Well, I am 150 lbs over weight, and I just can’t control my eating. I think I am on track and then something else happens in my life and I fall back into bad habits.”  “You are brilliant,” I ...

Oh, Mother’s Day…

Mother’s Day, like all holidays, can bring a mixture of emotions. While we all technically have a mother, what happens after birth varies greatly. I had no idea how challenging Mother’s Day could be until my mom died because most of my life it was just a day where our family did something nice for our mom. Since her death and after working with many ...

Birth-day

It’s that time of year again. It’s my birthday. This Thursday, the 4th of May, marks the anniversary of the day I came into this world. Now that I am a mom, birth-day has a whole new meaning. ​​​​​​ While I am so grateful for my life and so grateful to be alive, I don’t love my birthday. What’s interesting to me is that the birth-day itself ...

Why Graduates Need Compassion…

Do you know that seemingly positive milestones can be a painful grieving experience? Seeing that the school year is coming to a close, today we are going to look at graduation. If you are a parent of a highschool, college, or any other school graduate, or you are graduating yourself, please know this: Graduation is a grieving experience because grief is, “the conflicting feelings that ...

What to Say When Someone is Sad…

As we chatted with our daughter Ayla on FaceTime, it was clear that her little heart was hurting to be away from her mommy and daddy. For our 10 year anniversary, Aaron and I decided to go on a little trip to celebrate. This is the first time, since our daughter was born almost two and a half years ago, that we have both been ...

Is Your “I’m Fine,” a Lie?

Do you know why people are afraid to ask, “How are you?” It’s because if the answer is anything but “fine” or “good”, they are not sure what they will say or do.   That’s why people who have broken hearts are constantly lying saying, “I’m fine.” We (I will include myself here) don’t want to burden others with our sadness, pain, or bad day. ...