Can Good Things Come With Mixed Emotions?

Have you ever had the experience of getting exactly what you want only to be met with internal resistance, fear, overwhelm, and doubt? 

As I mentioned last week, my book baby was supposed to launch on the 16th of August… but it happened pre-maturely.

Within 24 hours The Compassion Code hit the international best-seller in its category on Amazon in the US, Canada, and Germany. 

Dream come true. Literally. 

However, I felt overwhelmed, shocked, and unprepared. I was supposed to have 3 more weeks.  

For those of you who have delivered a child pre-maturely, you may relate to the feeling of “oh goodness, here’s the baby, but I just wasn’t ready yet.” 

So here you have this amazing experience, but your bags weren’t packed, the nursery wasn’t ready, and your birth plan was way off. But the baby is here, and you want to feel grateful. 

It comes back to “the conflicting feelings that come at the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior,” the definition of grief that we use at the Grief Recovery Institute. In this case, this is the end of a project I have been working on for years. It is the end of creation and the beginning of sharing. It is vulnerability and excitement for self-expression. 

I am here to tell you, and to remind myself, that it is normal and natural to have a mixture of emotions, even when amazing things happen to you.

Win the lottery, get a promotion, marry the love of your life, get accepted to your dream school… whatever your dream may be, it is okay to then feel scared, overwhelmed, or any other number of emotions, because you are HUMAN.

So what to do with this mixture of emotions? 

Be gentle with yourself. Allow yourself to feel them. And confide in people who won’t judge you. 

Thank you for being my people! What remains constant in all of this is my overwhelming gratitude for the people who love and support me. So, thank you!

Now that the book has come to life, please feel free to ​​​visit If you enjoy reading my blogs, you will likely enjoy learning more tools for how to say the right thing when the wrong thing happens. 

Again, thank you for your support! Also, remember to be kind to yourself… even when good things happen!

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