The Art Of Receiving Compliments
A trend I have noticed with people, particularly women, is that we often struggle to receive compliments.
Often it sounds something like this:
Person 1 : "You look nice today." Or "I love your outfit."
Person 2: "No, I don't. I am literally a train wreck right now. I had no sleep. I am running around with my head cut off. I have gained 10 pounds since I saw you last. And this dress was $6 from the clearance section at Ross."
If any of this sounds like you, please know that you are not alone. My intention is not guilt or shame, but rather to bring your awareness to this and offer an opportunity to try on something new.
Here's the thing -- a compliment is really a gift.
Imagine someone extending a beautifully wrapped present to you, and instead of accepting it with gratitude, you knock it out of their hand.
Here's what happens when we deny or reject compliments:
We're not just rejecting a kind gesture, we may be unintentionally hurting the other person. It's like telling them, "You and your perception are wrong."
We potentially block future compliments, and you might start wondering if others appreciate your efforts, your appearance, or your kindness.
We're unkind to ourselves, and we rob ourselves of the joy that comes from receiving the gift of the compliment.
So, what's the solution?
It's surprisingly simple, though not always easy.
Just say, "Thank you." That's all it takes. If you're feeling bold, you can even add, "I appreciate you noticing" or "I like this outfit too."
When you respond with gratitude, you're accepting a gift graciously, and in doing so, you're giving a gift in return. You're telling the other person that their kindness matters, that they matter. It's a beautiful exchange of positive energy.
This doesn't just apply to compliments about our appearance. It's also relevant when someone acknowledges your hard work, your kindness, or your efforts. Instead of brushing it off with "It's no big deal," acknowledge their appreciation with "You're welcome" or "It was my pleasure."
I encourage you to try this for just one day. If it feels good, go for a week. Challenge yourself to accept compliments with a simple "Thank you" and respond to gratitude with "You're welcome." It might feel a bit uncomfortable initially, as you unlearn an old societal norm, but I promise you'll notice more uplifting interactions in your life, both personally and professionally.
Let's make this week one of gracious acceptance and generous gratitude. Try it on and see how it feels. I'd love to hear about your experiences with this simple yet transformative practice.
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