7 Ways to Survive Valentine’s Day
As I am sure you are well aware, it’s Valentine’s Day week. If you didn’t notice it was coming, the hearts, glitter, pink and purple streamers, and I love you balloons probably gave it away.
While Valentine’s Day is a cultural, religious and commercial celebration of romance, for many it is a painful reminder of the loss of love or the absence of love.
If this is a challenging or painful day for you, please know:
- You are not alone. It can feel really lonely, particularly on a day celebrating romantic love, AND there are a lot of people out there who are also longing for love lost or waiting to find “the one.
- It is okay to feel sad, lonely, jealous, frustrated, heart-broken, or any other emotion. The more we allow ourselves to feel, the more the feelings can pass.
- Being in a relationship isn’t always rainbows and unicorns either. If you are in a relationship and feel disappointed that it isn’t what you hoped, know that 1 and 2 are also true for you.
- It’s important to treat yourself with love and compassion… no matter what. If you don’t, others likely won’t.
- You are the ONLY person who will ALWAYS be by your side. So, do something nice for yourself. Don’t wait for someone else to get you what you want. Be proactive with your desires and then anything that others do for you is just a bonus.
- Compare leads to despair, and the truth is you never actually know what someone else’s life or relationship really are like. So, don’t compare yourself to others (perhaps stay off of social media tomorrow if this one is hard for you.)
- There are always things to be grateful for. Once you allow yourself to feel your feelings, shift into gratitude.