Is Social Media a Good Place to Share Something Personal?
Is social media a good place to share something personal?
Recently I had a client say, “I share on social media because when I tell people in my life that I lost my daughter, they have a tendency to fumble over their words, try to fix it, or seem so uncomfortable that I have to comfort them… and that seems to defeat the purpose of sharing in order to receive support.”
Some people criticize others for sharing such intimate things on social media. However, sharing on social media can be a good first step to being vulnerable without a ton of risk. And, it can help people feel a connection to others during their darkest moments from the comfort of their own home.
Imagine you have recently lost someone you love. How do you think it would feel to have to tell everyone you know and relive the hurt and discomfort over and over again?
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There are endless scenarios of people sharing the most intimate details of their lives through social media, and I want to encourage you to respond with compassion.
One of the hardest parts about my mom’s death was having to share it with the people in my life who mattered most. Seeing their sadness and discomfort was heart-breaking
If you find out about important news on Facebook or some other social media source, be compassionate. Try not to take it personally that they didn’t specifically tell you. They wanted you to know on some level or they wouldn’t have shared. If this is someone important to you, take the next step and reach out to them personally.
If it is someone you don’t know well, and you find yourself thinking, “Ugh . . . why are they sharing in social media?” put on your Compassion Hat and remember that one of the strengths of social media is allowing you to vulnerably share and receive support.
As much as I have mixed feelings about social media, this particular aspect can be powerful to combat the myth that it’s better to grieve alone.
People can find community and connection online which can be an important gateway to sharing and connecting in person.
If you want some more guidance or support to find the right words to respond on social media, check out my new book: The Compassion Code: How to say the right thing when the wrong thing happens
or check out Compassion Code Starter Kit.