Category: Helping Others

Leading by Example

Have you ever noticed that kids do what we do, not what we say? The other morning I was driving Ayla to pre-school, I noticed that she was picking at her nails. I asked her why she was picking after we had talked about how picking and biting your nails isn’t a good habit, to which she replied, “I want to be like you, mommy.” ...

The 4 P’s of Parenting

Children teach us who we are and who we want to be. In many ways, having a second child has been much easier than having the first. (Even though I am still not sleeping much:) Remember the definition of grief that we use in at the Grief Recovery Institute? “The end of or change in a familiar patter of behavior.” Well the second time around, ...

10 Years After Her Death…

Today is January 5th, 2018. To many it’s just an ordinary day. To me it marks 10 years since the most life changing moment of my life, my mom’s death. It is 10 years of figuring out who I am without my mom. It is 10 anniversaries of her death, 10 birthdays, my wedding, my Dad’s wedding, my brother’s wedding, 1 niece, 2 children of ...

What not to say during the holidays!

Even with all the holiday cheer, the holidays can be rough. As we approach the end of the year, it is normal to reflect on all that has happened, good and bad. While there is so much to be grateful for, 2017 has been devastating for many. From mass shootings, to fires and floods, to loss of loved ones and divorces, it seems like tragedy is inescapable. Of course ...

Can Having a Baby Be a Grieving Experience?

I am 38 weeks pregnant, and while I am excited to welcome a baby boy into our family, I am also scared. Do you remember the definition of grief from The Grief Recovery Institute that I have shared with you time and time again? “The conflicting feelings that come at the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior.” Not the bad, sad, terrible feelings… ...

When It Hurts So Much…

Does it feel like we are constantly being bombarded with bad news? Where should we donate our time, energy and money when there is just one thing after another? Do you help with Harvey, Irma, Las Vegas, Puerto Rico, or the fires in California? And what about your own personal hardships or those of your friends and family? I had a great interview with meditation expert ...

Know Your Audience

One of the foundational principles in Grief Recovery work is that we don’t compare losses because as we say in the coaching world, compare leads to despair.  When comparing losses no one wins. If I say, “mine is worse than yours,” it can diminish what you have shared often leaving you feeling smaller, less than, or unimportant. If I say, “yours is the worst,” I ...