Is Grief A Luxury?

“You should be over it by now” and “pull yourself together” are two common expressions that people say when they have been misinformed about how to support the people they know after loss. Not only are these and many other of the common responses to grief ineffective, but they can also be really hurtful.  While the people in our lives are often just repeating what ...

Is Stress Really Just Unresolved Grief?

Have you ever noticed that little kids feel every emotion at 100 percent? At some point we, as a society, tell them that big boys and girls don’t cry and that they need to toughen up.  What happens then? Well, that is when the stuffing process begins. They begin to stuff their emotions down and pretend they are fine so they can “be strong” like ...

Feeling the fear and doing it anyway…

This weekend I went to Sugar Land, Texas to attend the Literacy Council Volunteer Appreciation Luncheon where my Dad and I had the honor of presenting a scholarship in my mother’s name. The Literacy Council lives by its mission statement of ending intergenerational cycles of illiteracy by improving adult literacy skills and generating community-wide literacy awareness.  In other words, they give adults the opportunity to ...